Comments on: Shine While Your Light’s On: Stop Trying to Be Two Different People http://www.rosettathurman.com/2009/03/shine-while-your-lights-on-stop-trying-to-be-two-different-people/ empowering a new generation of leaders Thu, 09 Feb 2012 21:15:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Living a Double Life: Thoughts on Cursing and Professionalism | Nikita T. Mitchell http://www.rosettathurman.com/2009/03/shine-while-your-lights-on-stop-trying-to-be-two-different-people/#comment-53834 Living a Double Life: Thoughts on Cursing and Professionalism | Nikita T. Mitchell Thu, 26 Jan 2012 13:29:26 +0000 http://rosettathurman.com/blog/?p=1070#comment-53834 [...] while I’m a firm believer that your professional and personal selves should not be presented separately to the world, both on and offline, it’s the one area in which I don’t let the two [...] [...] while I’m a firm believer that your professional and personal selves should not be presented separately to the world, both on and offline, it’s the one area in which I don’t let the two [...]

]]> By: Who Are You on Social Media? | Rosetta Thurman http://www.rosettathurman.com/2009/03/shine-while-your-lights-on-stop-trying-to-be-two-different-people/#comment-53074 Who Are You on Social Media? | Rosetta Thurman Tue, 30 Aug 2011 14:21:44 +0000 http://rosettathurman.com/blog/?p=1070#comment-53074 [...] purposes, though, there’s more at stake when you’re not being real online. You’re being two different people, and that’s not [...] [...] purposes, though, there’s more at stake when you’re not being real online. You’re being two different people, and that’s not [...]

]]> By: Lola Adesioye http://www.rosettathurman.com/2009/03/shine-while-your-lights-on-stop-trying-to-be-two-different-people/#comment-51319 Lola Adesioye Thu, 17 Jun 2010 20:28:56 +0000 http://rosettathurman.com/blog/?p=1070#comment-51319 AMEN SISTER. AMEN. GREAT GREAT POST. this is really about us owning who we are as whole beings. We are not fragments. We are all of it. I wrote a post you may also be interested in reading: <a href="http://www.lolacreative.com/2010/06/05/being-free-being-me-the-dilemma-of-being-multi-talented/" rel="nofollow">http://www.lolacreative.com/2010/06/05/being-fr...</a> AMEN SISTER. AMEN. GREAT GREAT POST. this is really about us owning who we are as whole beings. We are not fragments. We are all of it. I wrote a post you may also be interested in reading: http://www.lolacreative.com/2010/06/05/being-fr…

]]> By: Jonathon http://www.rosettathurman.com/2009/03/shine-while-your-lights-on-stop-trying-to-be-two-different-people/#comment-2967 Jonathon Mon, 16 Mar 2009 18:27:29 +0000 http://rosettathurman.com/blog/?p=1070#comment-2967 If your personality traits in your personal life are contradicting the personality needed to do the work in your profession, that sounds like a serious problem. Most of my friends share the same profession as I do so it's much easier to communicate with them. The hardest thing to do in this society is to be your true self. I find that there are a lot of people who feel in their minds that they have to put up a front to mask their weaknesses in the workplace. Just be real with yourself and with others. People are attracted to people who have a pulse and willing to be open and honest with your feelings about certain situations. If you are the type of person who is a Debbie Downer and participate in office politics all the time, why would someone want to deal with someone like that personally and/or professionally? I know that I don't like dealing with pessimistic people period. If your personal life affects the work that you need to do for a client, boss, whatever, then that's a problem as well. You do need to keep your personal life separate because if its affecting performance, then that's a question of how well you deal with stress under pressure. Take a day maybe a week off to deal with your personal life outside of the office and then return to work. Your co-workers, bosses, clients, vendors, etc. don't necessarily have to be your best friend. They can but its not mandatory. But also realize that people are attracted to people who are personable and have a personality. If your personality traits in your personal life are contradicting the personality needed to do the work in your profession, that sounds like a serious problem. Most of my friends share the same profession as I do so it’s much easier to communicate with them.

The hardest thing to do in this society is to be your true self. I find that there are a lot of people who feel in their minds that they have to put up a front to mask their weaknesses in the workplace. Just be real with yourself and with others. People are attracted to people who have a pulse and willing to be open and honest with your feelings about certain situations.

If you are the type of person who is a Debbie Downer and participate in office politics all the time, why would someone want to deal with someone like that personally and/or professionally? I know that I don’t like dealing with pessimistic people period.

If your personal life affects the work that you need to do for a client, boss, whatever, then that’s a problem as well. You do need to keep your personal life separate because if its affecting performance, then that’s a question of how well you deal with stress under pressure. Take a day maybe a week off to deal with your personal life outside of the office and then return to work.

Your co-workers, bosses, clients, vendors, etc. don’t necessarily have to be your best friend. They can but its not mandatory. But also realize that people are attracted to people who are personable and have a personality.

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